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Dearest Readers,

On September 21st, I nearly fainted at the long-term care home where I provide spiritual care. I was in the middle of delivering a sermon for the residents during our homemade church service and the world started to go black.

I pulled up a stool and carried on, acting as if I was okay when I wasn’t. I didn’t want people to worry. But after the room cleared, I got help from the nurse and called for a ride home.

Because I had spent part of the previous weekend with a family who’d had “the gastro,” and because I was in bed for the next two days with nausea and a weak stomach, the sickness was chalked up to gastroenteritis.

The family who’d given me the bug got better in two days. Ten weeks later I am still sick.

What I want to write to you about is not the details of my illness but the practice of surrender. Because one has led to the other.

Twenty-plus years ago, when I got on the Healing Journey and began to seriously attend to my spiritual life, I unwittingly got on the Fixing Journey, too.

Give me a problem and I will give you the solution. You’re sick? Say affirmations. You’re sad? Be positive! You’re depressed? Change!

Apparently, I’m not the only one. There is actually an Instagram account called “Healing from Healing.” It can be a bit crass but the account holder is ultimately trying to illustrate the wider healing community’s compulsion to fix: if you’re not happy\/healthy\/whole you must be doing something wrong!

It’s taken me a long time to learn that healing doesn’t mean fixing and controlling. It means letting go, releasing, accepting, surrendering. And believe me, I haven’t finished learning the lesson.

Since getting sick, friends have offered me silent faith sessions, tried to perform distance healing practices on my body, and recommended shamans and psychics.

You would think I would be grateful for all of this support but my reaction has sort of been, hmm, how shall I say it? Irritation.

“Stop trying to fix me! Just let me be sick!”

Now, because I analyze everything<\/em>, I realize that this part of me, let’s call her Resistance, might be the part of me that doesn’t want to heal. Maybe she likes being sick because she gets to check out of life.

Maybe.

Maybe not.

Maybe there is another part of me, let’s call her Wisdom, that knows that this illness is actually teaching me something important and a miraculous cure would only eradicate the lesson.

So what’s the lesson?

There are a few:

Since becoming ill, I have had to say “no” a lot. Saying “no” is not one of my strong points.

Since becoming ill, I have had to let go of my fear of being judged. I imagine that people are going to see me as “less than” because I’m not working, I’m weak, I’m cancelling appointments, I’m falling behind. I have had to let these imaginary people think what they are going to think.

Since becoming ill, I have had to accept that my body is not able to do what it could do ten weeks ago. But I’m a yoga teacher! Too bad.

Since becoming ill, I’ve had to surrender to the fact that life has thrown me a curve ball and I can’t reach my arm out to catch it because the lymph nodes in my armpit are swollen and it hurts to much to stretch.

These are big lessons. Vital lessons, no? Why try to fix and control them away? They are teaching me well.

Yes, I would like to heal. Yes, I would like to have my energy back. And<\/em>, what if it was okay to be sick? What if this sickness is actually healing me, one small surrender at a time?

If I was to be suddenly, miraculously healed by a prayer, a shaman or a psychic, would I not just go right back to saying “yes” when I need to say “no”? Would I not immediately return to over-giving my time and energy? To doing more than my body can handle so that I would finally be enough?

It’s highly likely.

In the first few weeks, when I was still fighting this thing and struggling to accept what my body was saying, I taught a couple of online yoga classes. Cancelling was unthinkable<\/em>.

Then I remembered how I am always telling my students to “listen to your body.”

How could I teach this kind of wisdom and not practice it myself?

So, I cancelled. And the next week, I cancelled again. And the next week, again.

Ugh.

The only consolation was that I was living my teachings.

Listen, let go, accept, surrender.

That’ll fix it.

From the fires of love,

Celia<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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