{"id":1677,"date":"2024-11-09T15:04:34","date_gmt":"2024-11-09T20:04:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.celiamcbride.com\/?p=1677"},"modified":"2024-11-09T15:04:34","modified_gmt":"2024-11-09T20:04:34","slug":"youre-doing-great-or-the-thing-we-never-tell-ourselves","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.celiamcbride.com\/?p=1677","title":{"rendered":"You’re Doing Great! (or the thing we never tell ourselves)"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Dearest Readers,<\/p>\n

Times continue to be tough the world over. How are you doing? Not bad? Okay? Barely hanging on?<\/p>\n

However this letter finds you, I am thankful you are with me in this moment, reading these words, connecting in this small way on the Path of Life. We are not alone even though we may feel lonely sometimes.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s been a few months since the last letter<\/a>. Summer took over. Family arrived. Adventures happened.<\/p>\n

If you are new to this blog, welcome! If you’ve been reading for a while, you already know that I am all about doing my inner work.<\/p>\n

Why? Because I don\u2019t like to suffer. So when I\u2019m in the pit of despair (as I like to call it), I will get to work on examining the problem, seeking the solution and taking action to heal. (I\u2019ve been accused of being intense \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

Sometimes I resist the healing process and wallow in the mire, but I remain pretty consistently willing to let go of my old ideas and do the good work of changing my perception\/attitude\/behaviour in order to feel better.<\/p>\n

Lately, the bulk of my inner work has been about reassuring myself when I\u2019m anxious, afraid, shut down, angry, sad, or critical. Sometimes, it\u2019s as simple as putting my hand on my chest and saying, \u201cI\u2019m here.\u201d Other times, I\u2019m in full-on cheerleading mode, looking in the mirror and saying, \u201cYou\u2019re doing great!\u201d<\/p>\n

It\u2019s taken me a long time to learn how to do these simple actions. The inner critic has been my constant companion (and often fights back). How much easier it has been to see that you <\/em>are doing your best but me? I\u2019ve practically made \u201cnot measuring up\u201d a lifestyle choice!<\/p>\n

Years ago, as a healing ritual, I bought a measuring stick at the hardware store, broke it into pieces (with furor), lit a small fire in the yard and watched it burn. It wasn\u2019t the end of measuring my life performance but it was the beginning of practicing<\/em> stopping the thoughts that tell me I\u2019m not good enough. Stopping the negative self-talk. Stopping the judgment.<\/p>\n

These days, taking it one step further and reassuring myself has proven to be a highly effective strategy for well-being.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou\u2019re doing great!\u201d<\/p>\n

Really? I\u2019m doing great?<\/p>\n

\u201cYes! You are!\u201d<\/p>\n

No, no. Let me give you a long list of how I\u2019m not<\/em> doing great! Let me tell you how I\u2019m failing!<\/p>\n

But what if doing great meant nothing more than being alive<\/em> in these hard times? What if it was actually enough<\/em> just to get up, do the day and go to bed?<\/p>\n

\u201cYou did that? You made it through another day? You are a successful human being!\u201d<\/p>\n

Because staying alive in this world is an accomplishment in itself. It is enough just to be here and get through it.<\/em><\/p>\n

Whenever the measuring stick comes back out and I start to feel the anxiety mounting, I take it upon myself to validate my be-ing with loving words.<\/p>\n

Sometimes it takes more convincing than other times but I\u2019m learning to be my own best friend. And it helps.<\/p>\n

Wherever you are on your own Healing Journey, you\u2019re doing great!<\/p>\n

Love and blessings,<\/p>\n

Celia<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dearest Readers, Times continue to be tough the world over. How are you doing? Not bad? Okay? Barely hanging on? However this letter finds you, I am thankful you are with me in this moment, reading these words, connecting in this small way on the Path of Life. We are not alone even though we…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[949,1082,839,1083,1053],"class_list":["post-1677","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-being-enough","tag-good-enough","tag-perfectionism","tag-taking-action-to-feel-better","tag-what-is-the-spiritual-journey"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.celiamcbride.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1677","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.celiamcbride.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.celiamcbride.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.celiamcbride.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.celiamcbride.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1677"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.celiamcbride.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1677\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1682,"href":"https:\/\/www.celiamcbride.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1677\/revisions\/1682"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.celiamcbride.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1677"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.celiamcbride.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1677"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.celiamcbride.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1677"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}